I was recently reflecting with some friends on what it means to be a good role model, and have good role models.
But how do we assess this? If we accept a role model — even a good one — completely wholesale, we might get in trouble. Most of us are influenced by one role model or another; many times in good ways, but also in bad ways. How do we discern the good from the bad? We need a framework and a standard to look to.
Anchored Somewhere Solid
Ultimately, our framework has to be anchored somewhere solid. For us, that is the life and teaching of Jesus Christ.
This framework and standard actually empowers us to assess ourselves honestly and humbly, and to lead that by example. I think it helps to acknowledge where we fall short, while also pointing out what is worth following — both in ourselves, and in others. Not in a harsh or purely negative way, but with candour and vulnerability. Done appropriately, that kind of openness can be steadying and encouraging for others, especially for our kids who are watching closely.
Having an ultimate, steady role model in the person and teachings of Jesus Christ, our Messiah and King, provides immense stability and a true “north star” by which we can aim our lives.
Measured by His Standard
It is by his standard that we measure both the good and the bad, and it is through the work of the Holy Spirit that we are changed over time, renewed in how we think and live.
“And do not be conformed to the pattern of this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you can test and approve what the will of God is — what is good and pleasing and perfect.” — Romans 12:2
This process of becoming more like Jesus is hard work. But as Dallas Willard said: “Grace is not opposed to effort, it is opposed to earning. Earning is an attitude. Effort is an action. Grace, you know, does not just have to do with forgiveness of sins alone.”
Keep Moving in the Right Direction
There is something encouraging in that. We do not have to get it all right, but we can keep deliberately moving in the right direction, and invite others into that process with us. By the Grace of God, may we all be found in Jesus:
“Now the words, ‘it was credited to him,’ were not written for his sake alone, but for our sake also, since it will be credited as righteousness to us who believe in him who raised Jesus our Lord from among the dead, who was handed over for our transgressions and was raised for our righteousness.” — Romans 4:23-25 (REV)